Why is it that right after high school, and during the first year of college, people seem to be in such a rush to get married?? Is there some weird hormone that kicks in eight after graduation? Is it some odd idea that our biological clocks have been reset to expire when we turn 19 or 20 instead of 45 or 50?? And why is it that when everyone else starts getting married so young that there seems to be this pressure to get married too? Is it our desire to conform to the rest of society? To be the same as the rest of the people in our age group? Seriously...everyone I've ever met that got married before the age of 23 or 24 has said that they regret it. Not that they regret getting married to who they did, but getting married so young. They all say that you miss out on so much during your early 20's if you get married young. IF THEY ARE THE RIGHT PERSON, THEY WILL WAIT!!! How absolutely difficult is that to understand?!?!! Go ahead, date away. Dating is fun and good when done under the right circumstances... But don't let yourself be tied down to one person. Be free!! Figure out what you like in the opposite sex. Go on adventures! Meet new people! Finish college! There is SO much you can do!!
You do not need to define yourself or the quality of your life by dating someone. Take it from someone who thought that you did for a long time. Your life is defined by YOUR thoughts and YOUR actions, not someone else's. You do not need a significant other to be happy and satisfied with your life. Yes, they are nice to have, but only when they are the right one, and come into your life at the right time. You CAN be happy without someone else.
Confession: I have wanted a boyfriend for a long time. I had my first real boyfriend in college. He lasted a week and a half because I didn't feel like he really wanted to spend time with me.
Confession B: I could have had many boyfriends before him. It wasn't that I didn't have any offers...trust me, I sometimes had more than I could handle. But I didn't take any of the offers because 1. I knew we weren't supposed to steady date while in high school and 2. I had a ton of fun being single.
Confession C: I learned a lot from my ex. I learned that I wanted to feel like my future husband wanted to spend time with me. I learned that I was defining myself by having the ability to have a boyfriend, partly because I felt like I needed one because all of my roommates either had, or have had boyfriends. I also learned that I don't need a man to be happy. I also learned that if they aren't the right one, life can be miserable.
Confession D: I have been proposed to 3 times, to date. I have turned them all down. Yes, I who have been planning my dream wedding since the age of 5, have turned down several proposals of marriage. I am 18 years old, and still have "a lot of livin' to do". I want to travel, see the world, meet new people, give meaningful service, and many other things besides.
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Why is it that right after high school, and during the first year of college, people seem to be in such a rush to get married?? Is there some weird hormone that kicks in eight after graduation? Is it some odd idea that our biological clocks have been reset to expire when we turn 19 or 20 instead of 45 or 50?? And why is it that when everyone else starts getting married so young that there seems to be this pressure to get married too? Is it our desire to conform to the rest of society? To be the same as the rest of the people in our age group? Seriously...everyone I've ever met that got married before the age of 23 or 24 has said that they regret it. Not that they regret getting married to who they did, but getting married so young. They all say that you miss out on so much during your early 20's if you get married young. IF THEY ARE THE RIGHT PERSON, THEY WILL WAIT!!! How absolutely difficult is that to understand?!?!! Go ahead, date away. Dating is fun and good when done under the right circumstances... But don't let yourself be tied down to one person. Be free!! Figure out what you like in the opposite sex. Go on adventures! Meet new people! Finish college! There is SO much you can do!!
You do not need to define yourself or the quality of your life by dating someone. Take it from someone who thought that you did for a long time. Your life is defined by YOUR thoughts and YOUR actions, not someone else's. You do not need a significant other to be happy and satisfied with your life. Yes, they are nice to have, but only when they are the right one, and come into your life at the right time. You CAN be happy without someone else.
Confession: I have wanted a boyfriend for a long time. I had my first real boyfriend in college. He lasted a week and a half because I didn't feel like he really wanted to spend time with me.
Confession B: I could have had many boyfriends before him. It wasn't that I didn't have any offers...trust me, I sometimes had more than I could handle. But I didn't take any of the offers because 1. I knew we weren't supposed to steady date while in high school and 2. I had a ton of fun being single.
Confession C: I learned a lot from my ex. I learned that I wanted to feel like my future husband wanted to spend time with me. I learned that I was defining myself by having the ability to have a boyfriend, partly because I felt like I needed one because all of my roommates either had, or have had boyfriends. I also learned that I don't need a man to be happy. I also learned that if they aren't the right one, life can be miserable.
Confession D: I have been proposed to 3 times, to date. I have turned them all down. Yes, I who have been planning my dream wedding since the age of 5, have turned down several proposals of marriage. I am 18 years old, and still have "a lot of livin' to do". I want to travel, see the world, meet new people, give meaningful service, and many other things besides.
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