Relationship Advice

Ok, so I promised to give out some relationship advice...

First of all, there's a saying that I like to use when couples fight, and look for advice...it is this: "Don't go to bed angry." The saying means this: if you have a fight with your significant other, get it resolved ASAP. Fighting is like inflicting a wound on yourself and the other person. If you go to bed angry, then you are letting the anger fester inside you, and just like a sore, it will become a parasite to your soul. The more you think about it, and stay angry, the worse things will seem, and the worse they will eventually become.

If you are one of those prideful people that think the other person should apologize first (for whatever silly reason...ie. "they started it", "he/she should be the bigger person", etc.), I have something to say that you might find a little harsh. But keep reading anyway. :) Get over yourself. As my wise mother would say "Take the high road". To "take the high road" means that you will be the bigger person, and apologize first. Or when confronted with an insult, you just let it roll off your back. DO NOT (let me repeat this, for it is important) DO NOT (one more time...) DO NOT hold onto insults, or whatever other mean things people might say. It's not worth it. I promise that if you will let it go, you will be SO MUCH HAPPIER!! Holding onto insults is like holding onto a hot coal. The longer you hold onto it, the more damaged YOU become. The people who insult you might do it on accident, or on purpose...however, they usually move on pretty quickly, and forget about it. You should do the same.

Pretend that you are wearing a rubber duck suit. Insults are like drops of water. Let them roll off like the little insignificant drops of rain they are.

My next piece of advice is to learn to compromise. Relationships are all about give and take. The more you give of yourself (time especially), the happier you will be. Don't think so much about the take...just give of yourself. Life will be better. :)

Watch for red flags. Red flag examples: If he/she abuses you (physically, emotionally, psychologically, etc.), if he/she is always in "poor me, woe is me, control drama" mode, if they are disrespectful to their Mother (for guys) or Father (for girls) (disrespect for the parent of the opposite sex is a big sign of how they will treat you in the future), other big things that might bug you (leaving clothes everywhere, uncleanliness, B.O., swearing, drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.). You can work through the small things, but these are the big things that you need to look out for.

Ok....the big one....

Cheating. If you're thinking about cheating on your significant other, DON'T. If you want out of the relationship, then get out. If you are married and looking at people of the opposite sex that are not your spouse, STOP! Do more things with your spouse, and STOP looking at others. You married that person for a reason! Out of all the people you could have married, you chose THAT person. Remember that reason, and STOP looking at people of the opposite sex that you aren't married to!
If you suspect your sig. other of cheating, confront them. Look for signs that they are lying, you should know this person well, and should be able to tell if they are lying or not. If you don't know the signs of lying, look them up on the Internet! Simply ask them, pluck up the courage, and just do it. If they try to avoid the question ("How could you ask me such a thing?" etc.), ask again until you get a straight answer. Look them in the eye. Most people cannot look another in the eye and lie, straight to the others face. Chances are, you will get an honest answer (whether you like the answer or not depends on the case).

I think those are the big ones that I'd like to leave you with right now. :)
Please remember that each case is different. If you have questions, please feel free to contact me on the comments section of my blog. :)

~A Friend

Disney thoughts...

It's here!! Something my bestie Brianna and I have been dreaming about for so long! The Wii Disney Sing Along game! Hooray!! :D

Confession: I am a huge Disney fan. I planned on living in the castle before they even put rooms up there! :) HA!

I know pretty much all there is to know about Disney. Why do I love it so much? Perhaps it's because there is ALWAYS a happy ending. Perhaps it's because all the problems get resolved. Perhaps it's because the Princesses all wear such beautiful dresses. Perhaps it's because I've always wished for a "Disney Fairytale" life.

That isn't to say that I don't live a charmed life, because I really do. I went to the chiropractor today, who is one of my friends, and he was talking about where to take his wife for their anniversary. I told him about a few good places, and he said "You know, I'm 2wice as old as you are, and you've been to way more places than I have." We both laughed because we knew it was true.

Anyway, I'm getting onto a tangent, and off of my Disney subject....
Did you know that they made an instrumental version of some of the romantic Disney songs, and turned them into a CD? It's called Disney's Fairy Tale Wedding. I am SO playing that at my wedding!! :)

Someone once asked me which Disney Prince I found most attractive...and I think I've finally figured out my answer. It's a tie between Prince Eric and Prince Naveen. I love how caring, kind, brave, and down to earth Prince Naveen winds up at the end of the story. I love Prince Eric because of his hair (I mean really, who can pull off that swoop-y thing that he does with his bangs in real life?). His smile is pretty awesome too, as is his love for his dog, compassion, his bravery, and heroics.

I debated over Prince Adam (a.k.a. The Beast) for a little while, because of the transformation he goes through (mentally and spiritually, not physically!). But looking back at the movie, his nose is a little to large...when he goes to kiss Belle, he almost looks like he could take out her eye. But his eyes, those deep, beautiful blue, eyes, wow. The Disney animators certainly got something right in that scene. You know what though...I'm a sucker for blue eyes. I was watching Percy Jackson and the Olympians the other night, and really looked at the lead male. Holy Snap! I was totally infatuated with him for the rest of the hour and 15 min! I like other colors of eyes too, but blue...that deep, Caribbean blue....Ah! Somebody pinch me!

I've heard other arguments about Shang (Mulan), Pheobus (The Hunchback of Notre Dame), and John Smith (Pocahontas). However, as a true Disney fan, I must state here that they are NOT Princes in any way shape or form. They are military men (in a broad sense), NOT royalty. See, the Princes, they have it all...militarial command, the looks, the title, the charm, etc.

I must say though, after all this Disney Prince talk...it makes a girl wonder. Is there really a knight in shining armor out there for me? Could there be someone out there that will love me the way you see in the Disney movies? If I find that person, could we really live "Happily Ever After"? I think the answer to this is yes. You can live "Happily Ever After" with the man you love, but you have to work at it. My advice? See my next blog. I'll discuss happy marriage (or if you aren't married, relationship) tactics.

Live life to the fullest extent!

~A Friend